If you’re a father and have a disability and want to be the man you are, there’s hope for you.
The first thing you need to know about being transgender is that you can’t be what you are if you don’t change.
“There are a lot of things that are part of the gender identity that are not really gender identity.
They’re things like dress, behaviour, language and social interaction,” transgender mother and journalist Jennifer Gough explains.”
I think there’s a lot that people can be doing that they’re not really sure about and they’re just sort of coming out and saying it, and they just have to take their gender identity to the doctor or someone who’s going to be able to talk to them and sort of get a diagnosis.”
So if I was the guy that I was born as and if I had my parents telling me that I could have the gender I was, then I wouldn’t be me,” she says.”
And I wouldn, you know, be like, I don’t want to have to live with that and I don’ want to do that, so I don’,t.
Gough was born female but she’s always been attracted to boys. “
If I were a man I would try to live as a woman,” she explains.
Gough was born female but she’s always been attracted to boys.
Her father, a former soldier, was forced to give her up for adoption after she turned 17 and was living in a tent on a remote Aboriginal reserve.
She was taken to the local Women’s Refuge for counselling, which was the first step in her transition.
“It was so, so different.
It was like going from being a girl to being a woman.
It’s really traumatic,” she recalls.”
You can’t have your life in a vacuum.
You have to think about what’s important to you and what’s not important and what can you live with.”
Then you have to deal with the fact that you’re not the same person.
It takes time, but it’s also a lot less traumatic and you can sort of start to understand yourself.””
It’s been an incredibly long process of trying to learn how to live a more authentic life.
I can’ t be a man,” she remembers.””
I said, I can’t go back and be who I am.
I can’ t be a man,” she remembers.”
They said, ‘No, you’re going to have a female name and then you’re gonna be a woman.'”
It wasn’t until after the transition was over that she was finally able to start her life as a female.
“The reason why it took me so long was because I didn’t understand it.
I didn’ t understand what it meant and what it felt like.”
It was only when she had her first surgery that Jennifer started to understand.
“When I was first starting to transition, I thought it was a new thing.
I thought, ‘Oh, I’ve just got to get used to being like this’,” she says, “but now I think it’s a really, really positive thing.”
Gough, who is based in the northern Queensland town of Lakemba, says she is now living as a male and she feels like she has more of a voice and a role to play.
“A lot of people don’t have to do this.
They can go and do whatever they want and they don’t even have to know that they do it.”
Now I can tell people, ‘This is how I feel and this is who I really am and this isn’t going to change’,” she adds.”
Because of the work that I do, I get recognised more, so it makes me feel more comfortable in society.
“But it takes a long time.
I was only 14 when I started, and it’s been eight years.”
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